It happens all the time: A guy sees an unbelievable-looking girl, walks up and says the first lame thing that comes to him, without giving it too much thought. Nine times out of ten, that guy is going to sound like a spaz, and the gorgeous girl will take a walk.
Because women are hit on more than tennis balls, they're often just waiting to shoot down the next idiot who gets in their faces. However, if you're not too pushy and don't come off as too eager-like a caveman about to clobber his woman over the head and drag her back to his cave-you might stand a chance.
Guys think that by flashing car keys and fancy jewelry, they're actually making progress. If that's the case, what quality of woman are we actually talking about? If she's only after the bling bling, is she really worth your time? Instead of being too eager, take a step back, relax and evaluate the situation. A basketball player doesn't go into a game without warming up, so why should you?
In the first volume of Etiquette for the Average Joe, I wrote a chapter entitled "Less Is More." There's a lot of truth to that homily, so instead of opening with how much you make, tone it down to a simple "hello." Make eye contact, give her a smile and speak from the heart. It doesn't matter if you're in a bar and comment on how poorly the air conditioner is-at least you're being honest about something to which you can both relate. Remember, she may be a supermodel, but she's not a superhuman being.
If you want to follow up your "hello" with a quote from your stock portfolio, go ahead. At least you showed sincerity from the start, and you didn't come off as a total spaz...at least not yet.
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